When Sexual Awakening Feels More Like Freeze Than Freedom
Yet another post came my way this week, raising serious concerns about how some conscious s*xuality spaces operate. It’s part of a wider pattern I keep seeing—where power, coercion, and manipulation are dressed up as “spiritual awakening.”
And here’s what’s rarely talked about:
These spaces hijack your nervous system.
They exploit your survival responses.
They condition you to override your body's truth.
If you've ever walked away from a "s*xuality retreat" feeling confused, ashamed, or deeply uneasy—but unable to name why—you are not alone. This is not your fault.
Here’s what’s happening on a nervous system level:
The “You’re Just Resisting” Trap – Your system freezes because something feels unsafe. But instead of honouring that, they tell you it’s just your “conditioning” and that “pushing through” will set you free. The result? You override your own body’s no.
Dissociation Framed as Ecstasy – Many people report feeling "out of body" after these experiences. That’s not expansion—it’s dissociation. A trauma response, not a breakthrough. If you feel spaced out and numb afterward, that’s your nervous system protecting you, not proof of enlightenment.
The Fawn Response Disguised as Devotion – Many of these spaces weaponize spiritual language to make you more compliant. If you find yourself over-explaining, excusing, or trying to please the teacher or facilitator, your fawn response has likely been triggered. This is not consent.
Hyperarousal Sold as Awakening – S*xual intensity does not equal healing. Many of these experiences blast your nervous system wide open without proper containment, leaving you dysregulated for weeks or months after. If a practice leaves you more ungrounded than before, it wasn’t medicine—it was manipulation.
What True S*xual Healing Looks Like
Your system is honored, not forced.
Your no is just as sacred as your yes.
Your body is the guide, not an external authority.
Your awakening happens in your time, on your terms.
The real conversation we need isn’t just about individual facilitators—it’s about the systemic lack of nervous system integrity in conscious s*xuality spaces, and the urgent need for true safety, consent, and embodied empowerment.
If you've been gaslit into doubting your own body’s signals, you are not alone. The path to true liberation is about reclaiming your full-body yes and your full-body no.
Let’s call out the harm. Let’s do better.
